Giving Compliments

Recently a friend said to me: It is part of a good partnership to give each other compliments. Sometimes to say, “You’re beautiful”. “You’re gorgeous”. “I’m so lucky to have you”. “You’ve done so well.” “What would I do without you?” We don’t always have to use superlatives, a simple compliment is already balm for the other person’s soul and a sign of love. If you never compliment your beloved, something is missing.

I’ve been thinking about how we can do the same with the Lord. To compliment Him. We do it in the Liturgy of the Hours, “You are great” “You do wonderful things” (Psalm 86:10). “How deep are your plans!” (Psalm 92:6). “Wonderful are your works” (Psalm 139:14). In this way we express our love for Him. Does He also compliment us? Yes, He does. In the very beginning, when we were created, God “looked at everything He had made and found it very good.” We also see Jesus complimenting people: “In no one in Israel have I found such faith” (Matthew 8:10). “Well done, my good and faithful servant.” (Matthew 25:21). “Blessed are you, Simon son of Jonah” (Matthew 16:17).

It does us good to hear compliments. It makes us happy, it gives us strength. Even if we already know that the other person loves us, sometimes we want to hear it. God himself doesn’t necessarily need our compliments, as a preface to the Eucharist knows: “You don’t need our praise; it’s a gift of your grace that we give you thanks.” But we do need the compliments. It is a grace to receive them, and it is a grace to give them. We shouldn’t wait to do it. It’s a small thing. It can be done at any time. Not as empty rhetoric, but as a true expression of our friendship and love.

Lord, beloved Son of God. Thank you for showing us the Father’s love. Not only in words. But also by healing us, comforting us, guiding us, protecting us, forgiving us – even suffering for us. Let us never forget your love. Blessed are you.

4 thoughts on “Giving Compliments

  1. Greetings Fr. ; such simple & easy touches indeed do contain much power. For me , this is more easily understood when looking at ugly , heartless comments & the pain they generate. Heart felt reaches of warmth , encouragement & well being can make a difference in a persons day & longer. Moving away from the “ constant traffic of the ego & my tendency of self centeredness towards others well being is worthwhile with rewards for all concerned. Peace & Prayers. Steve Mitchel

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  2. Yes. Compliments are necessary. Also for God. He needs to know that we appreciate all the gifts that He give to us. And now, I would like to you a compliment: thanks you Fr. Mauritius. You Don´t know me but I heard your Podcast from Discerning Hearts about the Benectian Rule, and since then its been a blessing for me and I am sure that St. Benedict IS the option for these times. Thank You for everything Fr. I pray for you. (Sorry for my bad English)

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  3. So good to be reminded. Kindness supports our relationships. Gentle words, a grace to be received and a grace to give.

    In such sense, it is a gift and source of inspiration to receive your words, Mauritius.

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